Conflicting Values

Conflicting Values Create Arguments, Dilemma and Incongruence.

Our highest values, when fulfilled, give us congruence and a sense of satisfaction. We like people who share our values and often have strong reactions to people who don’t.

On the other hand, when we experience conflicting values it creates a guilt, dilemma and incongruence. Values can conflict at the same time (ie. simultaneously “should I do this or should I do that”) or over time (ie. sequentially “I know I really shouldn’t have done it”). Arguments and disagreements are almost always associated with people having conflicting values.