The journey of finding the relationship that is right for us can be an exhausting affair for some, yet fun and natural for others. For a start, we may want to take the opportunity to refine our concept of who we are and what we want from life, so that we can attract the person ‘of the same feather’ to our life. Part of the journey of finding a mate is learning how to become our own mate, learning to meet our needs without relying on someone else to complete us or to fill our emptiness. We can also discover our core values in life and in a relationship. Being aware of who we are, what is important to us, and learning to love ourselves create a strong foundation of self that we can bring to any relationship. This includes understanding what aspects of a relationship are important to you, and what personal qualities you value in yourself and others. Make a list of the qualities you’re looking for in a person and a relationship, and underline those things you won’t compromise on. Make sure you also have the same qualities you are looking for in the other person.
When it comes to finding a perfect match, compatibility is key. You want to find someone you can talk to openly, have fun with, and share your interests and activities with. People who are compatible with each other understand equality and respect and don’t have to spend every waking moment together to feel secure or comfortable in the relationship.
Taking time to find a good match for yourself is a wise plan. Jumping into a relationship simply because you're feeling lonely is not likely to lead to the best results. If you take more time to find someone that you have things in common with, share interests with, and come to know and understand, outcomes can be much better. There are several other things that you need to consider when looking for a good match for yourself. "Perfection" with someone isn't reasonable, but finding someone you can share things with, will understand and respect you, and come to appreciate your qualities is. There is no such thing as a "perfect" match or a perfect relationship, but you can find someone who fits well with you by taking time to look carefully.
Whether you have already found someone and want to understand each other better or you are embarking on a journey to find the right match, make an appointment with us before you embark on your lifelong journey of total commitment. Email us at info@ashtonnlp.com or whatsapp +60162196625